Abraham Lincoln famously said, “Better to be silent and thought a fool, then to speak out and remove all doubt.” Perhaps it was in Abe’s spirit then, that before everyone had GPS in their cars, it was a well-worn cliché among women that their husbands would drive around lost rather than stopping to ask for directions. Personally, I never related … Read More
Published! Magazine Interview
Please enjoy my interview from Published! Magazine from 2019. Lucas Roy Lehman speaks and leads seminars on personal power all over the U.S., Sweden, and Canada. He is a certified neuro-transformational coach, a certified sexuality educator, and founding director of the nonprofit Freedom Within Prison Project. He’s also the author of the new bestseller, Seven Principles of Sex and Money … Read More
Intimacy, with myself?
I’ve been very fortunate in love. Which isn’t to say that I got married and lived happily ever after, or that I haven’t had my share of betrayals and abandonments, heartbreaks and heartaches. Over the last 30 years, I’ve lived and loved boldly, I’ve made mistakes, and I’ve had my share of all that love has to offer a human … Read More
What is an Intimacy Makeover?
When you think about your past relationships, (or your current relationship if you’re frustrated with the quality of your intimacy), do you find yourself ruminating on what your partner should do, or should’ve done differently? If only they’d been ________, or if only they would’ve done ______, then it would’ve “worked out.” Perhaps there’s even been a pattern of behavior … Read More
Harvard study discovers the #1 key to a fulfilling life
I was recently listening to a TED talk about a 75-year study by the Harvard psychology department, exploring the question of what brings the greatest happiness and satisfaction over a lifetime. The study followed a group of undergraduate men, as well as a group of Boston area men who didn’t attend college. At the start of the study in the … Read More
Commitment or Surrender?
A couple of weeks ago, I committed to delivering a few paragraphs of copy to my assistant for my newsletter, and two whole weeks went by without me writing a word. I didn’t have any good reasons, and not even any mediocre excuses. I had the time. I just didn’t do it. Why not? Now, as I often tell my … Read More
A Failed Marriage?
The autumn days are getting shorter, but miraculously, here in Santa Cruz, the Indian Summer temperatures are actually warmer than during summertime, and I’ve been so enjoying swimming in the ocean a few more times before the water gets too cold. Maybe because the school year starts in the fall, to me, now feels like the time of new beginnings. … Read More
What’s the difference between “love” and “in love”?
Do you remember the last time you said to a friend “I’m in love!” It feels so good to be in love and you probably couldn’t help but share all the details about your last date and how wonderful and alive you felt. It’s true, all those yummy love hormones make us feel giddy and happy. It’s a high we … Read More