I’ve been very fortunate in love.
Which isn’t to say that I got married and lived happily ever after, or that I haven’t had my share of betrayals and abandonments, heartbreaks and heartaches. Over the last 30 years, I’ve lived and loved boldly, I’ve made mistakes, and I’ve had my share of all that love has to offer a human heart. I’ve learned so much, and my life has been very rich.
I’m grateful to all the partners–long term and shorter term—that I’ve had the opportunity to give love fully and freely to, and so grateful for the abundance of love I have received in return. With each relationship, or maybe through the conscious grieving after the end of each relationship, I have been able to heal a wounded part of myself, and today I find myself experiencing being single in a new way.
I notice that I like myself, that more and more I enjoy being with myself, and that I’m not looking for somebody else to distract me or rescue me from my feelings. Most importantly, I find that I’m not needing somebody else to validate that I’m worthy of my own love.
I often tell my clients, we can only receive as much love from others as we give to ourselves. And if we’re looking outside ourselves to get more love, we are not likely to attract it. Or if we do connect with someone, it’s likely to have the same vibration as the last someone.
Through my lifetime doing this work on myself, and my dozen plus years doing this work with clients, I have come to think of intimacy as the music of love. And just as I wouldn’t have gotten much better as a guitarist without my many teachers, so too has the quality of the music of love in my life grown through self-reflection, self-responsibility, and mentorship.
What about you? What is the quality of the music of love playing in your life? Do you have a mentor to improve your “musicianship?”
I have two openings left in my upcoming Intimacy Makeover 90-day on-line group program starting in mid-April. It’s a very affordable and life changing program for you if you’re ready to improve the quality of the music of love you’re playing in your life—solo or with a partner.
This program is for you if:
- You are eager to create new patterns and experience more love and joy
- You want realistic tools to create more ease & connection in all your relationships
- You are ready to break the cycle of attracting the same types of unsatisfying relationships
For more information, please check out IntimacyMakeover.com.
Please send me an email to learn more, or we can jump on a quick call to see if it’s the right thing for you at this time.